Alan Chambers, president of Exodus International, in the announcement that EI is shutting down.
Hey, you know that quote about asking yourself “Am I gay?” and all the questions inherent in it?
Yes, you do. This is Tumblr. If you haven’t seen it by now, you may be doing this wrong.
The quote is thus:
Because here’s the thing about realizing you’re into girls. Hardly anyone I know has ever said, “Am I gay?” in the same way they say, “Hey, do you know what the weather’s supposed to be like tomorrow?” Like they just need to figure out how to dress for the occasion. No, when most people ask, “Am I gay?” they ask it with the kind of urgency they would usually reserve for things like, “Do I strap this parachute to my back and jump from this free falling airplane or do I nose dive into the ocean and hope the sharks don’t eat my remains? SINK OR SWIM? LIVE OR DIE? QUENCH THE FIRE OR BURN ALIVE?” It feels so urgent, and the reason it feels so urgent is because you’re probably not just asking, “Hey, do I want to make out with other girls?”
You’re also probably asking: What the hell are my parents going to say when I tell them I want to kiss other girls? And my friends and my co-workers and my classmates and everyone at my family reunion? And what’s that girl going to say when I tell her I want to kiss her? And how is my life ever going to be OK, and how can I go on being the same, and am I the same, and what else do I not know about what’s alive inside me? And who will still love me and who will start hating me, and is God involved, or the government maybe, and what if it’s only one girl I want to kiss, and how do I label myself and must I label myself, and what if I change my mind and, really, what if do burn alive?
It crossed my feed again last week, and I thought, “Who wrote that and what’s it from and is the rest of the post as good?”
Answers: Heather Hogan; a 2011 AfterEllen recap of a German TV show somewhat similar to Glee called “Hand auf Hertz”; and YES.
Love and fear — real love and real fear — are about as deeply honest as you can go, and when storytellers commit to that universal truth, it resonates across sexual stereotypes and gender binaries and historical prejudices and language barriers and borders and oceans and space and time.
Hi, anon! Great question.
The church I work at belongs to the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America. This denomination permits (officially as of 2009) people in “publicly-accountable lifelong monogamous same-gender relationships” to serve as pastors. Lots of ELCA congregations have openly gay pastors, staff, members, and families.
I have always made it clear in my ordination process (and ministry life in general) that I am gay, and have talked openly about my partner. I was open in my paperwork, my interview, and the first several times I was introduced to the congregation officially.
So! The answer is a very strong yes. I am very lucky.
The Lowry and 35W Bridges in Minneapolis, Minnesota following the passing of the equal marriage laws. Minnesota is the 12th state to accept same-sex marriages (but by far the most fabulous, although that may be my biased opinion).
I love you, Minneapolis. I absolutely love you.
8. A huge multi-faith coalition of people of faith was absolutely essential to the victory. While I am proud of the long-standing support of my clan, Unitarian Universalists, for marriage equality, my hat is off to the Evangelical Lutherans on this one. In Minnesota, they made all the difference. And the vocal Catholics who stood up to the leadership of their faith were deeply inspiring.
*But not too proud.
Twelfth state to make gay marriage legal.
I heart you, MN.
LGBTQ* Law and Protection History
The Gif above showcases the LGBT legal changes of same-sex/gender recognized marriages in the United States from 1970-2013.
There it is.